I’m currently following Building Blender/Other/BlenderAsPyModule - Blender Developer Wiki to the point. I’ve been able to setup everything without issues, but as soon as I try make bpy it builds and installs, but I never get a bpy.so or 3.4 file to be copied over to my python framework.
But basically, you have to ensure WITH_INSTALL_PORTABLE=ON for building, and copy over the bpy folder instead of bpy.so.
Also remove /Users/esutton/blender-git/lib/darwin_arm64/python/lib/python3.10/site-packages/bpy since bpy was not supposed to be installed in the libs there.